The Erotic Blueprint
Sexual compatibility is an important facet of understanding your overall compatibility within a connection, yet outside of sex drive,...
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Look for Green Flags, too
By now I think it's obvious that the modern dating landscape is a fucking jungle. I can barely keep up with the sub genres of...
How to: Set Boundaries in Dating
As we begin to feel out dating again, particularly post lockdown it’s high time that we revisit own boundaries when it comes to the early...
Overreactions vs. Reactions
Ever been the victim of your own severe reaction and then had to suffer the consequences? Me too. Dating and relationships naturally...
Slut Shaming: Don't do it.
I got slut shamed on the weekend, and I'm not here for it. I just returned from an absolute whirlwind trip to Melbourne which was filled...
Giving Great Head: A Guide for Women
Fellatio, blow jobs, sucking dick and giving head are all terms we regularly throw around, but in spite of the colloquial familiarity the...
Why the small things matter in dating
This may be the greatest relationship hack you'll ever read. Here's a hint: THE SMALL THINGS MATTER. To preface this, I recently re-read...
Giving Great Head: A Guide for Men
Cunnilingus, eating pussy, giving head and eating out are all terms we regularly throw around, but in spite of the colloquial familiarity...
The Two Sides of Sex
Let’s talk about sex. But not in the salacious way. In fact I want to try and bring a pragmatism to thinking about sex. This could be an...
The Art of Sex Chat
Sex is fun to talk about. It's flirtatious and it brings an electric energy to any conversation. It ignites curiosity and the...
Dating Realities Vs. Dating Fantasies
Okay when I tell you that you need to let rationality have a seat at the table when it comes to the early stages of dating, what I failed...
Closure is Fake News
I hate to tell you this but closure isn't real. Closure has become an overly romanticised, almost poetic concept that we’ve decided that...
Understanding Love Languages
The idea that we intuitively understand our romantic partners on a deeper level is incorrect. In fact being a freelance mind reader is on...
The Getting Laid Equation
Men are not cavemen anymore. No. Men are now connected, reactive, stylish and sensitive individuals. They are also more adept at...
Men like Competition and Steak – Part 2
Remain a challenge and keep a man interested When you make things too easy for men; offer yourself on a silver platter wearing lingerie...
Please, just text better.
It may seem superficial to judge a human being (as opposed to a robot) on their ability to write a text message. However, it’s now a...
Why He Hasn’t Asked You Out – Part 2
I’m sure he likes me, so why hasn't he asked me out? Got a loophole not listed in Part One? Read on, for exceptions to the rule. D) He’s...
A Sense of Mystery
Maintaining a sense of mystery within a relationship is about as imperative as using deodorant on a daily basis. Particularly as you...
Go Slow Baby: How soon should dating become a relationship?
In dating and relationships we talk about timing a lot. Timing of meeting someone, and whether the connection you forge can develop into...
A love heart icon among millions: Dating & Social Media
Anything to do with the heart is never easily classified as black & white. So when social media came round swinging that “how big’s ya...
“Shoot to Kill” and 3 other tips for using dating apps well
Dating apps cop a lot of shit and frankly i’m not shocked. They’re often slapped with the label of responsibility for cultivating a...
Sex with the ex makes the sex (spectacular)…
yes, that is a Valium Sundae
What to expect when your ex is expecting.
It’s 6.11am and you’ve hit snooze 1.5 times. You’re a little perturbed when you open your eyes to 8 messages from 5 of your friends. A...
Attached. What does your attachment style have to do with the success of your relationship?
Everything. Do you jump into relationships quickly, avoid labelling them for 8 months or sporadically freak out about not getting a reply...
How to avoid losing yourself in a relationship.
It seems be boring (and obvious coming from me) but the risk of losing yourself in a relationship is a direct reflection of the diligence...
If you wanna be my lover
According to the internet (bless its accuracy) the definition of a lover varies from a person having an extra marital affair to someone...
How to: The Single (Girls) Guide to Surviving NYE Sans Plus One
THE EVENT: NYE Aside from Valentines Day, NYE is flagged as the worst night of the year to be single. For some unknown reason...
NYD, the new NYE
I like doing things at the exact opposite time that everyone else is doing them. I get a secret thrill out of being home during Christmas...
Softboy vs. Fuckboy
In my haste to educate against the notorious fuckboy phenomena of 2019, I took a cynical stance towards any male who was incapable of...
Dating VS. Covid-19
Being in any type of relationship during COVID is messy, but the underlying subtext is that it requires effort. In fact it seems to...
Can men and women be 'just friends'?
The older I get the more I learn about the dynamics of male and female relationships, yet with more knowledge only comes more grey space....
Oops, I had sex on the first date.
It doesn’t take a Carrie Bradshaw themed ‘then I got to wondering…’ memo to realise that in 2020 there’s no strict guidelines broadly...
Threesomes: Retro Fantasy vs. Reality
Not long ago on an afternoon walk with a friend I was hypothesizing about why the guy I was seeing wanted one of my friends around so...
How to spot Red Flags when dating
Red is one of those curious things in life that has an intrinsic duality embedded in its symbolism. Traditionally we’re taught that red...
Casual Sex Etiquette. Is there such a thing?
Is casual sex etiquette an oxymoron? Is the very nature of casual sex that it is fleeting and free from the obligatory ties of...
The Single (Girls) Guide to Surviving the Office Christmas Party Sans Plus One
THE EVENT : THE CHRISTMAS PARTY Ho-ho-ho-HO. What better event to jeopardise your romantic integrity than with the annual Christmas...
Mind Thuggery
Mind Thuggery; The Art of being in charge of your head 4EV-A Mind Thuggery is an exploration of quintessential techniques to keep your...
Why He Hasn’t Asked You Out?
I believe that this is possibly the most commonly pondered question in the history of woman hood. Eve herself probably agonized over...
Be Heart Smart
Life Conundrum #289 Being in a relationship has the ability to build you up or tear you down no matter where you are in your life. Get...
The Central Vortex of Attributes
Triangles make the world go round, which is ironic really if they’re definitely not round. Triangles dominate our theories; scientific,...
Ageing Dis(Gracefully)
I used to be what I would call, completely ageist; scared of getting old, frequently lying about my age to the point where I didn’t...
Love, Style & Bad Habits
Loosely classified as a coffee table book with a bit more sage that your average, How to be Parisian Wherever You Are is probably not the...
Why Dates are Important…
Once upon a time it was a stretch for me to understand why women insisted on being taken out on dates. There's so many potential...
Mind Thuggery – Part 2
Mind Thuggery; The Art of being in charge of your head 4EV-A Mind Thuggery; The Art of being in charge of your head 4EV-A Mind Thuggery...
Passive Aggression – The Short Fat Kid of Anger
Passive Aggressive adjective of or denoting a type of behaviour or personality characterized by indirect resistance to the demands of...
The Fairer SeXX
Women love men. Let’s not pretend for a second that this is not a fact. We love them because they are equal parts captivating,...
Things that travel has taught me
Unless you’re completely emotionally sideways (or avoidant) it’s difficult to come away from a substantial stint of traveling without...
Winter Blues Baby
Last time I checked it was March and the sun was beginning to set on another glorious summer. Then just as suddenly I was calculating how...
How To: The Singles (Girls) Guide To Surviving a Wedding Sans Plus One
EVENT: THE WEDDING Drink Mimosa’s at every chance possible. Yes, breakfast beverages are acceptable on wedding days. Dress appropriately....
Men like competition and Steak
Men like a challenge. So do many women. To be honest, nobody really likes anything that comes easily. If it was too easy then we...
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